How do we handle marital disputes? - As responsible Rabbonim, the members of our Vaad Harabonim of Queens Bais Din are most deliberate in their handling of marital disputes. For the benefit of all parties involved such issues are dealt with in a delicate and sensitive manner. Confidentiality is of primary concern. Our chief objective is to ensure the fair and equitable treatment of both husband and wife.
Marriage is a sacred commitment, which is not to be hastily discarded. Our Torah tradition views divorce as a last resort. Except for cases of exceptional circumstances such as an abusive or halachically forbidden relationship, the Rabbi's will only recommend divorce once all reasonable attempts at reconciliation have failed.
Sometimes, it is clear that a marriage cannot be saved. It is then of crucial importance to both husband and wife that a proper Get be issued.
The importance of a Get - In order to end a Jewish marriage, Jewish law (Halacha) requires a Jewish bill of divorce (Get). The marriage is ended when the husband gives his wife the Get and she accepts it. A standard Get procedure is non-adversarial and does not involve litigation. There are no grounds needed when there is mutual consent and no personal questions are asked.
According to Jewish law, neither party may remarry until the Get is given and accepted. Without the Get, the woman's offspring from any subsequent union are considered illegitimate and they may marry only Jews of similar status, bearing the stigma of illegitimacy (Mamzerus) for future generations.
The Get procedure is standardized and halachic. The entire Get procedure is supervised by a qualified Rabbi or Rabbinic court. The Get is written by a scribe and presented in the presence of authorized witnesses. A document is issued certifying that both parties are now free to remarry according to Jewish law.
^Return To Top
